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I prefer love with arranged marriage. In love marriage there is a chance for them to know abt each other their likes, dislikes etc. Bcos life is not a game to handover it to an unknown person. Most of the marriages end up in divorce due to misunderstanding. In love marriage we can know abt our better half well. Most love marriage is intercast marriage so it strengthens the relationship among people with various castes. The main point is by love marriage, dowry culture can be entirely destroyed from its root.
Hi,
Why we couldn’t think like- fist LOVE and understand, then arrange the marriage in our traditional way.
Don’t miss use this flavor ‘LOVE and understand’ for sex.
Please don’t forget one thing; Indian moral is wonderful in the world. That we will realize it when we will mess with different country’s culture.
Its as good as asking for suicide is Better or Murder.
But I would like to go with arranged marriage. Bcoz if u loves a girl and want to marry her against the family, then u will loose the 3-5 members love in place of single love. i.e. with ur girl.
Hai everybody,
I would always vote to love marriage bcoz; it’s you and that girl who are going to be involved in that relationship. None other than the two will be able to understand the feelings, so it’s better to go by ur wish. I believe that we live only once, so we must live on our own feelings. So I conclude that love marriage is the smart decision, but u must make others accept it i.e.) make Ur parents accept it.
Posted By: radhichmca
Hi, friends
I am giving support to Arranged Marriags.bcaz our parents bought up us with what we want, i.e they gave every thing to us. They know what personality we r.they only know what we like n what we doesn't like n how we behave at that situation.thy only will bring good husband to us.
Friend r lover stay with us for some time. Every body behaves well for some time. At that time they don’t under stand what we r, every one looking good by talking for some time.
If they marry in future thy stay together at that time once behavior may no like by other one. They r going for divorce.
Our parent sees family background, so we can estimate behavior of other.
Well
In my opinion I feel that mutual understanding and maturity level of both the partners makes a blissful marriage.
I don’t think we can predict a human being quality or mentality in a year or two. I wonder if we do PhD on human beings that will be a fiasco.
So knowing a person for two or three years and doesn’t mean that we know everything about that person. At the same time marrying a person with parents wish and will also may end up in divorce.
So I want to conclude it by giving a simple suggestion that is
Mutual respect, not pointing out the loopholes of each other, not having selfish mentality, not having any prejudices, and ego will make a successful marriage.
Or just learn or imitate our elders.
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said this on 20 Jan 2007 2:23:26 PM IST
Both arrange and love mairrage can be successsful if there is mutual undersatnding.we cant not gurantee about arranged mairrage it will be a successful mairrage.
The problem is not the type of mairrage but the main problem is lack of understanding.after mairrage people feel as if they are in bondage an they feel as if they have to abide by all the rules.if we realise mairrage as a commitment to our life partner and not as a bondage, then we will feel more free to dicuss all the issues of differences.
The other problem which i think is both with arranged mairrage and love mairrage is lack of coordination between the two partners. every human being in this world is different, and even if u want to change your self according to the will of your partner it will take some time. so we should have patience and should help our mate to change those habits, but we should not expect a 100 percent drastic behavioural change .
The biggest problem with love mairrage is about the over expectation.before mairrage lovers meet for few hours and then they will part away. and oviously in those few hours they will have all those love and romantic chat. but when they get mairried everything changes. after mairrage you cant expect the same person should always available day and night for you to have romantic chat , after all life is not only romance. after mairrage there is so much responsibilities for both boys and girls.
the problem with arranged mairrage is again about expectations. you can not know about the nature of a particular person without knowing him/ her closely.every boy and girl want his or her spouse to be very romantic undersatnding, loving caring , responsible, smart intelligent. you cant not have so many expectation from a human being , after all every human being is haviing his or her flaws.
So basically a mairrage is commitment to your partner and you should have have patience for any person to change his or her behaviour..he or she should fist listen to their partners carefully and should not have a cynical apporoach to each and every statment made by thier spouse.
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said this on 26 Jun 2010 12:58:42 PM IST
I think it's good if love marraige, as they know eachother before and love have the power to boost self to excel and cross any hurdle....marriage is about sharing of feelings between the two...afterall it’s you and ur better half who are going to be involved in that relationship......so why dont we choose those things happen after marriage rather than before ...........If the couple have mutual understanding,great compatibility with each other,their relationship will lead to success, no matter its love or arrange marriage
first, understanding is important... lack of understanding cause major problems.... secrets should be shared...watever it is they should share each other... love , care , affection, truth , belief should be there...
So I conclude that love marriage is the smart decision, but u must make Ur parents accept it... they even love you... if dey had understood you from ur childhood so why they can't understand you now...!!
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said this on 03 Sep 2010 8:30:27 PM IST
i accept everyones repepeated mutual understanding btn each other.but the real problem lies in adjustment because though parents try to solve disputes, they should not accept one side view and the worst thing is forcing one to adjust the other Egoistic partner .if adjustment is only one side then other partner justice is trashed.Morever no partner love their life with hatred in mind.respect to each other is more important.
so love/arranged depends upon their lifestyle.
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said this on 27 Jan 2007 11:16:47 PM IST
well the gd was good but there sould be a bit consideration to the lovers also rather than family..
well don't u think most of the sucides r done by lovers due o the dissagreement of there parents..
so this issue should have beeen disscussed
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said this on 15 Feb 2007 2:28:40 PM IST
My point of u love marriage is best . bcoz if u consider arrange marriage most of the people believe the brokers voice. Instead of believing the broker voice y u cant believe ur daugher or son thoughts.
Love come with arrange marriage gives the happiness. That happiness
u cant compare with any happiness.
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said this on 26 Feb 2007 4:44:13 PM IST
THIS IS VERY GOOD TOPIC BUT THEY SHOULD STRICTLY FOLLOW THEIR PARENT'S WISH WHAT THEY WANT TO DO
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said this on 12 May 2007 12:11:51 AM IST
acc to me arranged marriage is best
becoz
frm childhood to till now our parents are taking care abt us
they know us and definitely they will choose us right partner
we should trust our parents......
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said this on 12 Sep 2007 10:21:32 PM IST
My point of view both love or arrange marriages become successfull only if their is proper understanding.
acc to me love come arrange marriage is best.
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said this on 19 Sep 2007 11:46:30 PM IST
the quality of the article is fabulous but it needs some widen area. As people r discussing on the same point they r not discussing on the social effect,economical effect and cultural effect on the topic..
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said this on 23 Sep 2007 1:28:28 PM IST
as we are in india and love is something to which we workship and it is not bad at all but there shud be proper understanding between spouses than only it wi8ll be a success
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said this on 23 Sep 2007 1:29:49 PM IST
acc to me the love marriage is more succesful because both parteners know each other
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said this on 23 Sep 2007 1:34:26 PM IST
will my friend according to my view love marrige is more batter as compair to arrange because in u understend your parteners need choice before marrige and
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said this on 25 Sep 2007 12:40:15 AM IST
its love or arranged ... first, understanding is important... lack of understanding cause major problems.... secrets should be shared...watever it is they shoul share each other...
love , care , affection, truth , belief should be there... if they have all these .. its no matter whether its love or arranged....
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said this on 09 Oct 2007 5:42:35 AM IST
Accourding to me for any relationship to be successful and to last for a long period or for the life time the two individuals should start thinking that both of them are made for each other. Instead of finding out faults of one another they should focus on how to solve the problems inteligently. If one can just think that no one on the earth is 100% perfect and every person may be having some sort of defects and those can be rectified if you put some efforts instead of moving away from each other.
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said this on 14 Oct 2007 9:03:41 PM IST
Very important topic this is, in my point of view arranged marriage is more success than love marriage. since in arranged marriage our parents and wel wishers see the background and nature of the people, then they think that if he/she are suitable or not . but in the love marriage it is not possible. being a successful family if it is love or arranged marriage there is no ego feeling and they shold think in positive way.
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said this on 09 Nov 2007 4:51:49 AM IST
In my openion arrange marriage is more successfull. Its just only because of blessings, the couples getting from that croud especially in temples and churches. But the couples who r doing register marriage couldnt get those blessings from people relatives and all. Otherwise think of it... I am a strong believer of it. Now we can add all suggessions explained - surely all it depends
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said this on 26 Nov 2007 1:53:00 PM IST
Marriage will be successfull or not it depends on the commitement level of the two persons , understanding level of the two persons. If they are commited to each other, if they can understand each other, if they give respect to each other, then arrange or love both type of marriages can be successfull.
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said this on 06 Dec 2007 1:14:54 AM IST
according to preethi parents can give us the best,but how could we know the psycology of life partner even parents could not know the correct psycology of life partner by enquiring his friends relatives and etc.
so prefer love marriage converted to arranged marriage parents should think once.if we ask them the permission .
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said this on 13 Dec 2007 10:47:36 AM IST
Well i think that wheather it be a love marriage or an arrange marriage we shouldnt forget that marriages are after all marriages. And that marriages are made in heaven.
The most important thing required in any marriage is love , affection, emotion, trust , cooperation, understanding, faith and believe.
Often divorce cases are ocurred when any confusion is created between the two. The confusion is needed to be cleared very patiently without entering into an argument.
The basic difference between the two is in case of love marriage you get to know each other before hand which is not possible in arrange marriange. But majorly in case of love marriage the two partners show their best to each other before marriage hiding all their weak points. In that case after marriage they cant cooperate with each other because their differences in thinking and leading life becomes a barrier between them.
Again in arrange marriage the two partners have very few time to know each other as a matter of fact confusion arises.
So whatever it is we shouldnt play with our lives and we should take marriages seriously cos various lives get associated with the two partners.
Confusions are there and will always exist cos where there is human relation and love there are confusion. Give utmost priority to your life and relation and not to confusions.
IT IS NOT A MATTER OF JOKE FOR ONE DAY. BUT, A LIFE TIME COMMITMENT.
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said this on 23 Dec 2007 11:35:32 AM IST
According to me marriage is nothing but emotionally dependent up on one other and sharing of feelings between the two......so why dont we choose those things happen after marriage rather than before....................
No pair in this world is perfect.....its no matter whether its arngd or love.....
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said this on 23 Dec 2007 1:45:12 PM IST
bullshit why is everyone so rebellous
nowadayz u need to watch ur actions .
parents rear us ryt frm our birth till we are ready to settle with someone,they have known us from 22 or so damn years,who else wud
help find the bets compatible match,in a stride of love passion and ardour we usually make wrong decisions,bt for them who have seen decades of life it is less possible that they ll make a mistake.
if u really care for someone just do 1thng let ur parents meet her,let them gauge her on their scale .
and do asthey say cos theres no guarantee that the girl u knw few months or may b years back will be able to cover up the love of ur parents.
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said this on 31 Dec 2007 9:04:34 AM IST
Marriage is something you would like to enjoy your whole life. Being a partner of someone for whole life without understanding and knowing that person is, I think stupid thing. Sometime we can’t even live with the person whom we know for a long time. How could you do that with someone whom you don’t know? There is a limit till you can adjust bcoz you are a human being.
Arranged marriage is good only in case if they are able to know each other and they really love each other. But the thing which someone commented is- love marriage should only be done in case when your parents are accepting it. Your parents know you well from a long time and no one can understand you that much. Parents will never look for a bad choice; they try their best to choose their son/daughter’s partner. You can know what your parents think about that marriage and can find out, is it really true? and that will lead to a successful marriage. So I think success of marriage is dependent upon the compatibility of persons as well as their ability to adjust and their affection for each other, not on the type i.e. love or arranged marriage.
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said this on 10 Jan 2008 7:59:07 AM IST
the topic given is the debate of 20th century. i think arrange marraiges are better than love marriage. all we know marraiges are made in heaven. it is true when the groom and the bride are happy along their life. i accede the fact that in love marriages they love each other & they got married in register office or somewhere in temple. they love each other because they consider only their positives during love . after they got married they are not satisfied with their life patner and finally it ends in divorce.peoples are in queue to get divorce infront of court. after getting divorce they will suffer a lot because they are not supported by anyone.but in arrange marriages, if at all any one of the life patner is not good or if there is any misunderstanding between them, they are supported by their parents. also in arranged marriages our parents are analysing a lot about our life patner. but in love marriages it is not like that. they just see the person and fell in love with them. now , the youngsters did not know the difference between love and infactuation. now lot of early marriages and early abortions are due to this love.
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said this on 12 Jan 2008 1:03:39 AM IST
it is a very good topic for GD, in my point of view arrrangmarrig is the best, b'coz when two person in love they always try to show best and for that maximum time say lie to each other and when they marry that time they know reality,it the reason of unsuccess love marrige.
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said this on 02 Feb 2008 4:29:36 AM IST
LIKE EVERYTHING ELSE in life there are no guarantees in marriage be it an arranged or love.
The ultimately success of a marriage depends on ability of the two individuals to mould themselves and their need s according to the situation even if it means compromise to a certain extent . One might say the advantage love marriage offers is that the 2 individuals know each other better and are aware of each others mannerisms or wants but how can u be so sure if u have not resided with a person . A persons needs or wants are a function of time in that they change according to situations so adaptibility is key for a succesful marriage . I dont think the no. of divorces are any indicator of a marriage . It is only that people's perception of marriage is changing from one that lasts for a lifetime to one that suits one needs. The greater no. of divorces can also be attributed to women being now financially independant are are therefore are secure enough to opt out of a marriage if they feel suffocated in one ; a choice which they did not have some time back.
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said this on 17 Feb 2008 11:03:45 AM IST
well ,what i feel relationship depends upon one's level of thinking ,mutual understanding ,trust,admire ,devotivenees,adjustment ,and last but not least " LOVE ", and i think arrange marriages good for everyone's future , because in arrange marriages ......
1 ~ u get arrange with someone when you will mature it means you level of thinking (brain)knows what your partner need .
2 ~ if we are aware of need of our partner it will increase mutual understanding between us .
3 ~ increase in mutual understanding means gain of trust and admire from our partner ...
4 ~ this trust increase devotivenees.
5 ~ devotivenees tells responsibility taking ability of human being .
6 ~ and responsibility(of your girlfriend ) doesn't mean
to be selfish or to go against parents decision .
because parents are our elders
they experience life more then us ... and experience matters a lots in life "
and don't forget every new book we will read with the double interest here arrange marriage is new for us so read it well .....to be intelligent in future {{{{{thanks }}}
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said this on 22 Feb 2008 12:47:12 AM IST
In my oppinion arrange marriage is better and longlasting than luv marriages. when we c som1 and fall in luv we luv his or her look or personality and As shaw said "we fall in luv wid a personality but after marriage we liv wid a character" And in passion of luv at that time we dont wanna listen any closest one. and we wanna marrry that gal. but the prob. comes after marriage when u get her responses on ur talks. so that in passion of luv we r not able to understand that the person we r going to adore is capable of making a perfect lifepartnor or not.
so that to select a life partner u should hav a practical eye which need practicle experience. and So i think we should giv the chance to our parents they always think best for their child. and also their choiec will be much rational and mature.
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said this on 23 Feb 2008 11:29:53 PM IST
well, before we discuss aabout love or arranged marriages lets discuss about marriage, its nothing but we are selecting a partner who will be there with us in entire life.so if we wants say which is best, we cant judge them bcz it depends on so many circumstances, we have pros n cons in both of them.if we take araanged mrgs, pros are its decides by our parents so we are giving respect to them,n they will guide us in case. if there is any problem in future they wil make it solve.and in in love mrgs there is prone to know about the partner, share their feelings way to understand each other and cons in arngd mrgs this is not possible,and in love mrgs our parents support wil not be there we have suffer them a lot.so if we want to say which is best the couple which hve better understanding btn each other n where love ,affection ,adjustments are there.so it canbe love or arranged marriage.
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said this on 06 Mar 2008 4:54:00 AM IST
marriage has been most revered & traditional ritual in india.there has not been concept of love marriage as such in indian context. even though it has become quite common due to excessive influence of western culture . people are more verbose and clear regaring their lifepartner.it has eroded our conventional culture to certain extent.
it has both positive as well as negative aspect. positive as[pect outweigh the negative aspect to large aspect.now love marriage allow to come out of cast and creed constraint forcefully imposed by our ancesstors. .
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said this on 06 Mar 2008 5:42:35 AM IST
marriage is whtever love or arrange thr shud be proper understanding btwn the partners..only difference is tht in love marriage we come to know d taste of partner before marriage n in arrange marriage after the marriage. wht I think Love Marriage d best option 4 the marriage, after all its ur future so u 've to choose ur life partner tht stands according to ur requirements. Apart frm this we shud 've to respect the views of ur parent who 've been caring n stand by us in every circumstances. So at this juncture also must care of wht our parent needs n requirements so tht u never 've feel of tht ur parents r dissatisfied with ur life.
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said this on 22 Apr 2008 5:48:28 AM IST
Wether it is arranged or love marriage, if there is good understanding,love then any hurdle that may come will be simply get resolved by the power to feel each other.I think it's good if love marraige, as they know eachother before and love have the power to boost self to excel and cross anyproblem.
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said this on 29 Apr 2008 12:55:59 AM IST
Gud morning friends
love marriage or arrange marriage.......nobody can guarantee which will be succeed? marriage is a matter of mutual understanding, trust, care, love, affection, compatibility with each other. so we can choose any particular option for marriage without knowing flaws of it. if in love marriage we know our partner that on the other side we have high expectations with him/her and this is always the cause of problems b/w them. now if we talk about arrange marriage than we have support of our parents and also some security of future but on another end we are completely unaware about the partner to whom with we r going to spend our whole life. so both are little dicey. hence the outcome is that it should be love cum arrange marriage so if we apply here rule of what comes in and what goes out our balance doubles and risk minimizes. and that is the best option according to me. because our parents are enough caring and wise for take our decision and also there should be our choice bcoz this is ultimately question of our life. and also after marriage there should be proper understanding and trust and maturity between life partners to make their relationship more healthier and stronger.
thank u
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said this on 27 Aug 2008 4:10:20 AM IST
Hi friends
This is very important topic in my view i think arranged marriages is more susses than love marriages since in arranges marriages are perents & well wieshes. & nature of the people than they think that if he/she are sutiable but in the love marriages is not sutiables.......In my view there are manny advantages & disadvantages for love marriages & arranged marriages marriages............
But there are manny cases where love marriages are failed....MOST of the love marriages are unsussesful so I think arrang marriages are best in INDIA...........
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said this on 09 Oct 2008 9:10:29 AM IST
According to me, whether it is a love marriage or arrange marriage,every man treats his wife in same manner. In both marriages, there will be dispute. bcoz life is full of disputes.If the couple have mutual understanding,great compatibility with each other,their relationship will lead to success.
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said this on 11 Dec 2008 6:08:02 AM IST
hi everybody i am arun from rasipuram,
my point of view the love marriage is the best for our life, because in the arrange marriage we don't know the character of our life partner and he/she cann't know about us, but in the love marriage we can choose the best partner for our life who makes the good understanding to us .Find the person and love him/her. it's a beautiful experience please all are feel it.
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said this on 20 Apr 2010 3:56:12 PM IST
hi,arun you are telling that in the love marriage u can choose the best partner. good , we also expecting the same from the children, but , one who is compleated their MBBS and seeking to catch a tenth qulified person .how the parants will accept this nonsence ... ?
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said this on 18 Sep 2010 4:40:00 PM IST
well,actually when this will be a case then it means the two persons love each other and in love everything is fair and fine becoz if an mbbs has decided to marry a tenth passed person then there is certainly some good thing or attractive thing in that person.and well education level matters upto some extent but true love never sees such barriers,if it is really true.
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said this on 23 Jan 2009 10:28:05 AM IST
Dear Reader,
Good morning all of you
marriage is meet of two heart otherwise love marriage or arranged marriage.but these days are boys and girls want to be only aim for sex .i want to saying that arrange marriage very successful why parents want to better known are experience of life .
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said this on 03 Apr 2010 3:49:51 PM IST
before the discussion of arranged or love marriage.first of all what is the purpose of marriage.i think it is to improve human relationships.human bondings.it is beteer to go for the marriage where we are improving our relationships.if we go love marriage then we will be missing the love of our family,respect of the people of sorroundings. if the person whom u loved nd married left u for some reason then whats ur position?how u will lead the remaining life?question ur self?be confident in what ur doing
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said this on 07 Aug 2009 12:01:51 PM IST
The content is not convincable...
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said this on 26 Sep 2009 7:54:32 PM IST
i believe that love cum arrange marriage is best ,if it could be..!!!
whether it is love or arrange marriage , the cardinal thing for success of relationship is mutual understanding as most of my learned frndz have said.....
the society ,we are living in,has changed substantially....
if u hav selected someone who is trustworhty,caring,well educated then surely parents would understand your feelings......... !!!
however,if it is just infatuation.......it will soon fade away..!!!
arrange marriages on the other side, owe allowance of elders.......but there is liklihood of selecting a partner who may not be suitable for u,....................thogh parents hav experience......
so whether it is love or arrange marriage,the only thing that keeps relationship living is mutual understanding
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said this on 27 Sep 2009 1:06:47 PM IST
hi,good day to all reader's
love or arrange marriage its totally dependant on understandings between the couples.but i m in favour of arrange marriage bcoz the bride and groom is choosen by the experienced parents but some may say that in love they are able to know each other but the real fact is couple always shows their good qualities they talk sweetly show that they are the only one who loves the most.but when you live the true colours comes out that is why love marriage's breaks easily.thank youuuuuuuuuuu.
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said this on 20 Nov 2009 9:30:48 PM IST
i think love marriage have both advantages and disadvantages.
Advantage: U get to know about ur partner very well where u r wid her for a long time .....
Disadvantage: U get bored very jaldi :)
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said this on 16 Dec 2009 11:20:05 AM IST
in my opnion love come arrange marriage is best,marriage basically the agreement b/w two partner moreover their mutual understanding caring for each other.as we see the past record many love marriage and arrange marriage are unsuccesful becoz of misunderstanding.
you cannot loose your love of parents becoz of single girl.many of parents take the suggestion from brokers for marriage of his/her childern if they take the suggestion from brokers why they not accept the thought of his childern.
love come arrange marriage is also accepted by our society and by our culture so i am the favour of love come arrange with family support.
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said this on 10 Jan 2010 5:44:22 PM IST
Hi all,
Now a days success rate of love marriages is very less comparitively because of lack of security, infatuation rather than love towards partner,etc...
But as for every entity there are both advantages and disadvantages with it love marriage too has its advantages.Both of them can know their views,preferences,opinions in many aspects even prior to their marriage and so can avoid misunderstandings.
when coming to arranged marriage as others said, couple will always have elders' support because it is their decision and so they will try to solve problems if any.But bonding with an unknown person may result in misunderstandings as couple may not know each other to the greater extent till their marriage.
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said this on 03 Mar 2010 11:07:45 PM IST
love with only sex feelings, with out sex there is no love,
in my view love is between
father-child, mother -child, brothers-brothers, sisters-brothers,g.f-g.s so..on
this is love
between youth boy-girl this is not a love,
this is only sex feelings
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said this on 05 Apr 2010 1:04:08 PM IST
a love cum arrange marriage should be preferred according to me coz any relation fails due to lack of understanding and compatibility..... failing which even an arranged marriage may come to an end.... a relation must be given time at least 2 years before entering into a marriage
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said this on 08 Apr 2010 10:44:10 PM IST
i want to add here 1 point here.
the one reason of failing of love marriage is that before marriage boy and girls both spent more time together, boy full fill all the requirements of the girl he care the girl very well and also respect her and better understand her feelings .but after marriage he become serious about his job and carrier and could not give more time to his partner and she feels that now he his not caring her and finally ends in divorce. so for a good marriage
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said this on 17 May 2010 12:14:16 AM IST
i think that watever it is arrange or love....marriage is after all marriage right....i mean one cant say after arrange marrige that he is not happy just because he dindnt love her bfore marriage or vise-versa....its upto each individual.. ya its true dat after marriage there r more resposibilities theres more pressure bt den u cant just ignore that as u have 2 accept it as a challenge and stand by ur relationship...watever kind of marrige it b one should always understand ones partner, one should understand the responsibilities, one should create the love between them n nurture it for whole of their life so that it blossoms forever.......
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said this on 18 May 2010 10:10:40 AM IST
Completely agree with bhagyashree. Marriage is not the matter of opinion. The primary important thing is our life. Different people have diffrent type of thinking ( 6 Hat cap thinking) so we should better plan it for future.
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said this on 23 May 2010 1:15:42 AM IST
guys.. marriage is the most important decision for our life. everyone must have its own decision.. so that in future one cannot blame anything for anyone. if a person know his or her life partner before his marriage... that marriage would definitely become successful apart from the family problems in future. if a person is performing arrange marriage.. one would never b able to know about partner's real nature, likes n dislikes. even in present days we hear loads of news about divorce... just becoz either they do not understand each odr or may be have external affairs, so they never live happy with each other. so in my opinion love marriages are most successful
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said this on 14 Jun 2010 2:54:06 PM IST
Love makes life beautiful..... Eventhough our parents will select good companion to us they are not the one who live with him/her. We are the people spent our entire life with him. Marriaging a guy without knowing him is a stupid decision. Love cum arranged is good for everybody...
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said this on 18 Jul 2010 4:10:41 PM IST
I think arrange marrage is stronger bond than a love marriage . They also argue that in arranged marriages , divorce rates are lower than among love marriages, bcoz parents are able to choose a suitable partner of a well established reputed family for their children
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said this on 10 Aug 2010 12:33:15 PM IST
According to me,Both marriage depend on good understanding with your Partner apart from that ,In Love marriage atleast you have so much time to decide whether your partner is perfect or not for you
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said this on 20 Aug 2010 9:43:11 PM IST
According to my view..it depends on the kind of society we live...
No matter what , society influences a persons action a lot....
If u are settled or grown in areas with large crime rate, divorce rates and all that bad stuffs u will eventually be lil bad and will not have a satisfied married life...
But if u are settled in a very calm, peaceful and area where cheating is less then u will have definitely better married life and understandings...
think about animals they don't have marriage or love marriage...
they live together in a peaceful area and vice versa
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said this on 29 Aug 2010 11:07:46 PM IST
Hiii guys according to my perception it depends upon the mutual understanding between the partners.......In love marriages both the partner known to each other before.......they met each other before many time, they known each others likes, dislikes and various other habits which is a good for healthy relationship....... ..........and in arranged marriages both the partners requires some time to make adjustments, to know each other after marriage which takes their few years after marriage......as far as the responsibilities are concerned they will definitely come when both become parents.........but still responsibilities are fulfill only when there is mutual understanding, which is the only key to a successful married life.
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said this on 21 Oct 2010 12:48:58 PM IST
friends,
lets differentiate between both type of marriages,in love marriage there is pre-attachments and in arrange marriage there is post attachments so the person who is going to marry he/she has to study or observe the persons likes and dislikes and according to that he/she has to cope with each other but why the question of mutual understanding comes here?when this question comes then we can think another word named adjustments .so should we always keep the thoughts of adjustment or something beyond that?one solution could be if "how you are trying to know to each other" and "how you are reacting in every situation" and the better control towards the negative factors will leads to have a excellent relationship between both of them......prakash kumar sahoo,hdf school of management,bhubaneswar.
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said this on 29 Oct 2010 8:58:41 PM IST
Hi every one i m totally abacked when some wise people say that arrange marriage are better than love marriage. because the r always giving the example of our past life when there ware decision taken by parents. and groom and bride had very limited role. and now days so many example of success love marriage for instance we can take :- Shahruk Khan And Gauri, Rajeev and soniya and other more .but in our past life we r totally depends on our tradition that only parents have authority to select the groom or bride.But now days i think that love marriage is the batter option for our modern life and it will help in reducing the dowry system and sex ratio also becoz now days indian sex ratio is !000:785 .........and taht time very limited option for divorce but now days ti has been seen that so many people has been take the divorce if u want to see than u may go in your district court .................Thank you to all
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said this on 30 Dec 2010 11:58:57 AM IST
Love marriages are very good option if you are able to convert it to arrange.Now slowly Indian society is changing so parents are able to accept it easily.But doing love marriage makes more sense to me rather marrying a person who is not known.
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said this on 30 Jan 2011 3:44:57 PM IST
hiii frnds m also in favour of love marraige bcz it give us enough time 2 undrstnd our partner very clearly & closly that make good relationshp & understanding btwn partners
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said this on 20 Feb 2011 2:20:17 PM IST
i m favour wd love marriage bcoz ur 3/4th life u r spending wd ur partner so u hv full rights to select ur partner..wht matter is ur compatibility...basically arrange marriage is long lasting bcoz 50% of partners from arrenge marriage hv fear from society what hey it wl say if they get seperated..n what family has decided for them they hv to go it with it n it affects their lyf n family too.they hav more sacrifisation than love marriage...so somwhat they r adjsting wd their partners....lyf is good with ur partner bt it wl br best if u understand each other neetly.
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said this on 21 Jul 2011 5:18:14 PM IST
to rate any one of the two best would be wrong most of our friends have supported either love or arranged mariage but iwould like to support marriage as relationship whether love or arranged we must take marriage as a respectful relation ship neither we should broke hearts of our parents nor we should create untoward approach against our better half what we must do is to to keep both the situations in mind and approach strategically such both the conditions get justified so that we can lead happy and peaceful life
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said this on 28 Oct 2011 6:15:48 PM IST
in my point of view both love marriage and arranged marriage has their own pros and cons.the success of marriage mainly depends on the couple not on the type of the marriage.so we have to give value to the marriage but not whether it is love or arranged
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said this on 17 Nov 2011 3:07:15 PM IST
Marriage is just a name given to the bond present between a man and a women. The main thing matters is the compatibility between two persons. If two person love each other and have no problem in staying with each other throughout their life then in that case it is better to do love marriage. The main problem is the mentality of the parents. In most of the arrange marriage parent themselves don't know about the bride or the groom properly. They only search for a good looks, family background and if he is a boy then how much he earns or in case of girl how delicious she can cook the food. In two or three meetings a person can not evaluate the other person properly. The two terms compatibility and understanding is very important for a successful married life. If a person is compatible with the person whom he/she love or the person suggested by their parent then it is excellent but if not then both arrange/love marriage will become a disaster and at last ends with separation. Parent have to understand their children's feeling and vice-versa.
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said this on 06 Jan 2012 10:34:11 AM IST
Can anyone say you never love a girl r boy sincere in your life..None.. Then how can you say only arrange marriage is good. live for yourself don't sacrifice your love for some others.Its the only one life given for us. so live happy wit your loved ones forever wit lots of joy,trust them,share your feelings,don't hide anything,don't have secrets,spend time with them.
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